A deputy for your busy husband…

It was supposed to be a day out with the girls but I could not make it because I woke up feeling very tired after sleeping for eight hours. I checked my sugar level and my blood pressure and everything was fine. Yet I was still feeling like I had two heads and my eyes refused to stay open. So, I had a long hot shower and dived under the duvet again, hoping and praying my friends would have so much fun at the party and forget I was not…

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If there’s less liquid, count me out

Times have changed. The marriage institution has become an endangered one. Yes, even in Nigeria. More women are going into it with their eyes on the exit, unlike in the past when wives clung on to their marriages even with guns pointed to their heads. Today’s wives don’t pay a lot of premium on their vows. Of course, with all our mothers did to make their marriages work, their men still did their best to discourage them. When emotionally-battered women refuse to pack up their marriages but decide to stay…

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Second chance couples

Yetunde’s first marriage lasted nine years, nine turbulent years. It was like she knew nothing about Wole until the day after the wedding. They quarrelled over virtually everything. He couldn’t live with her job and she didn’t understand why he had to travel so much when she needed him more. Her mother-in-law was unbearable. Wole too found Yetunde’s father overbearing. Twice she moved out of the house but on the third strike, Wole filed for divorce and refused to speak with anybody except through his lawyer. And that was the…

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Ma’am: Three ways to fight back

You must have at one time or the other suspected your husband was having an affair. No big deal, most married men do. The occasional fling to relieve their youth or assure them that the strands of gray hair on their temples have not affected them ‘downstairs’. As long as they always come back, what’s a roving eye between husband and wife? The deal becomes big when the affair graduates from being an occasional fling. When your husband goes a step further from the late nights to spending nights, weekends…

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If you are 40 and still searching…

This is for every woman over 40 who still is searching for love in their lives. It can be a tricky road navigating life as a single woman, particularly if it’s been awhile since you’ve been single. But by this age, we’ve seen and experienced some things that make us a bit wiser than we were in our younger years. Some of the things we’ve learned had to be learned the hard way, with a little bit of pain. But you know the quote by Maya Angelou: “When you know…

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Babe wake up, it’s all over

So, how do you know if you are being dumped or if you are the ‘dumpee’ even this minute? First, let us all agree that not all relationships end up in ‘I do’. Many actually end up in ‘I don’t’. If a man no longer wants to ‘do’, you will do well, my sister, to learn to let him go. When a man is done with a relationship, he’s done. He may not look like he’s even lacing up his boots, yet he might have left you weeks ago. So,…

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Dad in mummy’s shoes

The alarm goes off at exactly 5.00am. He turns on his side and taps his wife. ‘Honey, go and get the kids ready.’ ‘Aren’t we forgetting something here? Today is the day you are wife for one day. So, off you go.’ Madam rolls over to get one more hour of sleep. Mr hops out of bed. First challenge? It takes forever to persuade children to get out of bed especially if the next bus stop is the bath. Today is particularly not good. Daddy does not know how to…

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