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2017: Year of violence, right abuses




Rather than being a year of increased awareness and adherence to the rights of the girl-child, activities surrounding the year 2017 appear to negate accrued painstaking campaigns and efforts that have gone into the liberation of the female gender in Nigeria.
Women were largely victims of rape, violence, abuse of all sorts among other ill treatments in a year.

However, a remarkable thing about 2017 is the reaction of women towards these violent acts. From objective observations, the response of these victims towards their human predators has been largely on a retaliatory note.
In year 2017, women resorted to the use of violence as a protective measure against their predators and many of them have ended their abusive relationship by stabbing their husbands or lovers to death.

For instance, an Oyo State High Court sitting in Ibadan sentenced a female lawyer, Yewande Oyediran, to seven years imprisonment for stabbing her husband, Lowo, to death for having a love-child outside their marriage with a white woman in Europe. Lowo got killed following an argument between him and his wife Yewande for wanting to bring back his child to Nigeria.

Another example was Sanda Bello whose mother is the former Executive Director of Aso Savings and Loans, Hajiya Maimuna Aliyu Sanda, had on November 19, 2017, reportedly stabbed her husband,Bilyaminu Bello, the son of Alhaji Halliru Bello, a former chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) to death during a quarrel after she saw a text message on his phone sent by another woman.

The Ladies Zone: Unprotected preys
In year 2017, virtually all states in the country recorded ugly cases of incest. Sadly, most of the victims happened to be children and relatives who had no voice and suffered in silence on the threat of being killed or maimed if they told anyone.
One of the cases is that of 52-year-old Paul Akpederi, who had been sleeping with his 16-year-old daughter for over five years before being exposed.

Another is the case of an incestuous father, Folorunsho Oluwaseun, who repeatedly abused his 17-year-old daughter between August 2016 and April 2017 at their residence in Ikorodu, Lagos State. The 51-year-old electrician had reportedly been awarded the custody of his three children after his divorce with his wife.

The victim, in return, had to comply against her wish as refusal attracts hunger and punishment for her and her siblings.
Unfortunately, Mr. Oluwaseun was released on N300,000 bail with two sureties in like sum after he pleaded not guilty to the charge.

Also, in the Unguwa Uku axis of Kano, a father (name withheld) was reported to have been consistently sleeping with his 14-year-old daughter whom he had impregnated on three different occasions. In Lagos, a 41-year-old father confessed to have started sleeping with his 15-year-old daughter blaming his involvement in the act on the loss of his job.

Pains of incest victims
A sexual assault referral centre in Lagos, the Mirabel Center recently rescued a Primary five pupil who have been sexually abused by her 35-year-old father, Emmanuel Idoko for over five months. The victim was said to have suffered psychological and physiological traumas, which made her, confess to a mandated reporter who visited her school.
Marriages dissolve over incest

Daramola Yemisi, a 36 year old seamstress had called for the termination of her marriage due to the incestuous relationship between her husband, Babatunde and their 15 year old daughter.
She said, “My husband left me on the bed and went to meet my daughter on the mat to romance her. I caught him touching my daughter’s breasts while she was asleep. After I caught him, I asked my daughter why she did not tell me, and she told me that my husband gave her money and told her not to tell anyone.”

Child rapists on the loose
Suddenly, child rape went on the rampage in Nigeria. Child rapists were seemed to be let loose on the prowl. They were everywhere. Almost on daily basis throughout year 2017, cases of child rape flooded the media.
In Ibadan, an 11-year-old hawker who sells detergent was gang raped by four men in February 2017 after being lured into an uncompleted building on the pretense of patronage. It was gathered that the victim had refused to sell to the men after smelling fowl but was subsequently forced into the building where her mouth was gagged.

A 35-year-old man, Haruna Murtari had also defiled a four-year-old girl, who according to reports happened to be the daughter of his neighbour. The accused had sent the girl to buy biscuits and when she returned he gave her his phone to watch movie, before having canal knowledge of her.
Also, a Vice Principal in Nassarawa State alongside three other persons raped a female student in his school.

These predators performed this act with extreme impunity coated in beastly passion to the extent that the Nigeria Police arraigned about 57 suspected rapists in Kano who defiled more than 57 minors within three weeks! Some of the victims were reportedly infected with HIV/Aids, while others got treated for various degrees of canal injuries.

Nigerian senate urges judiciary to revisit law on sexual offences
Sometime in May, the Deputy Leader of the Senate, Sen. Bala Ibn Na’Allah, moved a motion entitled “Urgent Need to Investigate Alarming Rate of Rape and Sexual Assault against Women, Children and Vulnerable People across the Country’’. He stated that the frightening increase in sexual violence cases constitutes a serious security threat to the larger segment of the society and that most of the cases where the victims are minor and under aged are severely under reported.

According to him, “The perversion is spreading across the country, with both the male and female gender as victims, especially in view of the poor prosecution and conviction numbers being turned out. It was stated that 1,480 cases of domestic violence, ranging from rape, child abuse, sexual abuse, assaults, defilement, to matrimonial issues were recorded in two years.’’

He therefore called upon the judiciary to re-visit the law on all sexual offences and address the seriousness they bear while also urging Police authorities to investigate and prosecute cases of sexual abuse, violation and violence in line with the provisions of extant laws of the Federation.

Child marriage
Child marriage also became prevalent in 2017. Men mostly in the Northern part of the country went for underage girls( girls before the ages of 15).
It got so bad that Nigeria was declared home to the largest number of child marriages in Africa, by United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF) in November. UNICEF revealed that Mauritania, Niger, Chad and the Central African Republic rank among countries where under-age marriages thrive in Africa but Nigeria, with 23 million, is home to the largest number of child brides. It also warned as delegates met in Zambia to discuss how to halt the practice that child marriages in Africa was set to double by 2050 unless urgent steps were taken. “Africa’s population of girls is expected to balloon from the current 275 million to 465 million within 35 years. By 2050 we will have more teenagers marrying

in Africa than anywhere else in the world,” it said.
Corroborating the UNICEFs view, wife of the President, Hajiya Aisha Buhari lamented the prevalence of child marriage in northern Nigeria According to her, such practice negatively affect the health, education, economic condition and increase domestic violence of girls. She said that 28.2 percent of married women in Nigeria are between the ages of 15 and 19 compared to 1.1 percent of men in the same age group.

Hajiya Buhari, at the National Conference on Social Protection for the Girl Child, organized by Action Aid in partnership with Ford foundation in October; said that violence against the girl child is based on cultural beliefs and gender norms which takes many different forms in Nigeria, including domestic violence, female private part mutilation (FGM), early marriage, sexual violence, and exploitation through child labor and domestic work.
The Emir of Kano, Sanusi Lamido Sanusi in his presentation said that the right of the father to marry out his daughter without her consent should be taken away, because such right does not exist.

The representative of Ford Foundation, Innocent Chukwuma said that one in every three girls are estimated to be married before the age of 18, noting that child marriage lies at the intersection of a broad set of structural and social problems facing girls today. “The practice of child marriage violates girls’ human rights; curtails their educational future and success; exposes them to greater health risks related to maternal mortality, maternal disability, infant disability and HIV; and is more likely to lead them into violent and abusive circumstances, social exclusion and poverty,” he said

Violence against women
Violence against women in Nigeria, like most African countries, was very common in 2017 and committed with high degree of impunity. Figures put it at up to 50- 60 per cent of Nigerian homes and most of it go unreported, either because of our cultural background, the family set-up, or economy reasons.

Medical experts at a conference concluded that the psychological consequences of violence against women called for urgent action to stem the ugly trend.
According to a consultant psychiatrist, Dr Grace Ijarogbe, most of the cases of violence against women go unreported “because the perpetrators are at a higher advantage than the victim.” “… when violence is committed against a woman, she has a feeling that she is worthless, she has a low self-esteem, she withdraws from friends because she has a feeling that people will know what is going on and if she continues being abused, she becomes depressed, anxious and then, she starts making mistakes.”

In an effort to tackle the menace of violence against women, the United Nations under its Women, Peace and Security Programme in December, called on community and religious leaders to join hands in eradicating the menace.
Olusegun Akinwotu, a medical doctor said, the psychological effects of domestic violence according to him range from post-traumatic disorder, anxiety disorder, development of emotional mood disorder like depression and they can develop psychosis. “The prevalence of mental illness among women will be reduced by 50 per cent if domestic violence is reduced and that is significant because you can always trace most of these mental illnesses to something happening in the past.”
The representative of United Nations (UN) Women to Nigeria and ECOWAS, Dr. Grace Ongile spoke in Gombe during a one-day consultative meeting aimed at strengthening partnership and commitment with community and religious leaders in the state towards tackling the menace.
The organisation through its Deputy Programme Manager, said violence against women slows down poverty eradication, just as much as it is a consequence of discrimination against women.
The Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Women Affairs and Social Development, Muhammadu Adamu Bappah said a draft copy of the domesticated Child right Law was before the state Ministry of Justice for consideration and onward presentation to as bill to the State Assembly.

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How to check cancer in children, by Nwobi



That one’s child is sick is worrisome enough, but that the child has cancer is dreadful news no parent ever wished to hear. In an interview with Dr. Nneka Nwobi, founder of Children Living with Cancer Foundation, she said that the best way to avoid the dreadful news is for parents to be alert and do regular check up for their children. Oluwatosin Omoniyi writes


What is the progress made so far on Children living with cancer?
We are in a better place than last year. We are in a better place in the sense that things are looking up. Nigeria is out of “recession” and we are hoping that corporate bodies, individuals would continue to help in getting us the medicines and facilities we need. The test we need and equipments we need to get better chances of cure for these children
Last year was horrible. People did not donate. Just very few people donated and we have an anonymous donor.

I don’t know who the person is but the person is always giving us money. After every two weeks, he or she drops money into our account. I don’t know who the person is but I’m most grateful because those monies come in at very crucial periods.

We owed the pharmacy that supplies us drugs last year. At least we were able to clear off that debt. Things are looking up and we are hoping that as the year goes on we will have better response from the public, from corporate bodies, individuals and religious bodies.

What really could be the factors responsible for cancer in children?
Unfortunately, it is not as well known as adult cancer. For adult cancer, they will say lifestyle -related but it is not lifestyle related in children. The youngest I have heard about was nine weeks old. The baby had muscle cancer.
When you see a child like that, you start wondering what type of life style would a nine week old baby have apart from being on breast milk but then you think about how does a child get formed. It is from the ova and the sperm of the parents. Therefore, if there is a genetic manipulation or if the genes making the ova and sperm are distorted, the child can come down with it during the formation.

Because you know, these ova and sperm would make the cells organs in the child. So, If there’s anything wrong with the sperm and the ovum, definitely the child may be affected but then again, there is a correlation with some ailments such as down syndrome and leukemia. A child that was conceived in a place where there is nuclear reaction like the Hiroshima nuclear explosion, people living under high-tension wire, it is postulated that such people may come down with a cancer.

High-tension wires emit rays and those rays can cause a distortion in the genes. Like any other radiation, it emits rays constantly, even when women go for mammogram and stuffs like that there are precautions to be taken because the rays are not our best friends

Would you say that the lifestyle of the parent possibly contribute to the cancer status of their children?
I will not say lifestyle. Well, lifestyle in a way because what they are trying to make us believe is that all refined things we consume have to do with our health in one way or the other. Refined things like sugar are called killer. They are still working on that to know the relationship between refined sugar and cancer.

What I know is that we do not allow children on treatment to take much processed food especially those white sugar. Also refined foods such as poundo yam have chemicals that are used to preserve them and these chemicals have their effects on the body.

For you to keep juice for more than two days, it would ferment and to prevent that fermentation, you must preserve it one way or the other, what effect does that preservation have on you, that you know? It’s about discipline and mindset.

What are the precautionary methods parents need to take?
Know your child; know what is normal so that when there is anything out of the norm you can track it fast. Go for necessary checks during the baby period, the preschool check such as 1-year and the 5-year check. I was in a school and I asked the children if they have had X-ray’s done and none of them had done that. In most public schools, we usually have an entry medicine check and we do that at intervals but we have deviated so much from the norm.

Normally, while you are in school, you should have checks and when you are through with a session, there should be another check before you enter the next class and in between, they should be checked because if that is done, there is a possibility of knowing whatever is wrong with them on time.

Knowing your children health status is key. We had a parent who didn’t know that her child had a lump in the abdomen. It was a tailor who felt the lump, and for a tailor to feel that, it meant it was a big one.
As parents, you wake up very early and you leave the house, by the time you come back, the child is already sleeping, You don’t know what’s wrong with the child. No time spent with them to know what is wrong with them. I will advise parents to ask their children questions habitually.
Abroad, a test is conducted, pre-natal diagnosis to know if a child is predisposed to have cancer but we do not do it here. We do not even do the basic ones. The cancer tests help us discover quickly certain markers of cancer. If a child has those markers, it means the child would be followed up. It doesn’t mean that the child has cancer, it just means that there is a possibility of having cancer. All these things are things to keep in mind.

What is the survival chance for children living with cancer?
Abroad, we have 80-90 per cent of survival, cure rates. Here in Nigeria we have less than 20 per cent. It is very dismal. A while ago, we were

looking at 25 per cent cure rates by 2025 but white men are already making us feel that we cannot achieve it. We have to take care of ourselves, for instance chemotherapy drug is not produced in Nigeria and whenever we want to use it, we get it abroad which is more costly.
For example in India, when they had the right to produce the drug, the cost rates dropped. A drug they were buying at $3, came down to $1. That could be because the government key into that course. Our government too should key into it, the government should encourage pharmaceutical companies to produce cancer drugs in Nigeria. Not many people use cancer drugs, it’s not very popular, even when we are looking for it here it’s not very easy to come by. All those are things one should look at when we are talking about survival rates.

When we are talking about cancer drugs, how accessible is it for children living with cancer?
It is not cheap and we have very few companies bringing them in and of course they too have to make their profits and sometimes, not all the medicines produced in India are acceptable in our teaching hospitals and because it is cheaper people go for the Indian made chemotherapy drugs than the England made chemotherapy drugs.

What is the difference between Indian-made- chemotherapy and US or Britain-made chemotherapy drugs?
Sometimes some doctors just prefer the England-made ones above the Indian-made drugs. It is a thing of mentality. Some of the Indian made chemotherapy drugs may not enhance healing the way you want it to. Some of the doctors ask specifically for British made drugs and we go for that.

Would you say that childhood cancer is on the increase in Nigeria ?
I want to believe that there is more awareness for now. More people are bringing in their children and more children are dying from cancer. They are now coming out because when we started, we used to have families hide their children. We used to have families send the children to the village. One of the parents we had, the child was 14-years old, had a large, massive tumor, they sent the child to the maternal grandmother place, the child stayed there until the woman died. The mother of the child went home to bury her own mother brought back the child to Lagos and the father refused to have that child in his house. Even when the boy needed blood, he refused to let the boy’s siblings donate blood to the boy.

At a point, the tumor was so much that the boy could not eat. He had a muscle tumor so it was compressing his airways, the esophagus, so he had to eat through tubes and of course there was no way that child was going to survive for long but you see that brokenness in him. Knowing that your father has rejected you is something that no child should go through, even when the child does not belong to the man.
We’ve had some crazy family set-ups that one father asked us to pay for the DNA test because he was not sure that the child was his.

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February 14: Widows’ day out



With smiles on their faces and shoulders held high, widows in their hundreds celebrated their Valentine party in grand style on Wednesday. The ‘Head High International Organization’, a Non Governmental Organisation for widows, gathered widows together at the VGINIS hall in Yaba axis of Lagos, as part of its visions to give succor to widows on a day famously celebrated as lover’s day all over the world.

These women have no husbands or supporters anymore. They are left to cater for children single-handedly in a society where forces against single-women are on the increase. Head-High foundation did not, however, leave these women to bow their heads in shame or feel irrelevant, rather, they gave hope to those who felt they were hopeless and had their heads high again.

Highly respected female personalities were present at the event. Personalities such as Her Excellency, Dame Abimbola Fashola, wife of the Minister of Power, Works and Housing; Honourable Commissioner for Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, Dr. Mrs. Lola Akande represented by Jumoke Odusanmi; Mrs. Laide Latinwa representing the Honourable commissioner of youth and sports.

Showers of love flooded the arena as warm hugs, handshakes of hopes were exchanged among the widows and the trustees of the organization. There were also souvenirs distributed to the widows in the spirit of the season.
While rendering her welcome address, the executive director of Head High International Organization, Pastor (Mrs.) Tinu Odugbemi established the purpose of the gathering. According to her, the Valentine love feast is a way to reach out to those who might be missing their loved ones during Valentine and may be feeling lonely and neglected; setting up a platform for widows to mix with peers, relax, network, be encouraged and enlightened also reconstructing love both in pattern and expression at Valentine season.

She added that at the 16th year of the organization, it has really attracted widows whose loves had been impacted in one way or the other, “many of our widows have been empowered through our skill acquisition schemes and at least 280 women and girls including widows and their daughters and 17 men have benefitted from these schemes”

She, however appealed to the widows to help the organization with its social and skills centre currently under construction at Isolo and to use the skills acquired to benefit themselves and the society at large.
While rendering the keynote address titled ‘Not without purpose’, Her Excellency, Dame Abimbola Fashola encouraged the women to truly keep their heads high and see God as their husbands.

She stated that there is no woman God created without a purpose whether widow or not but that the difference lies in the nature of the assignment given to each person and individual discharge of duties assigned them by God. She asserted that a woman was created by God to have dominion and nurture the earth.

She then enjoined the women to live impactful lives as expected by God and pray for other people around them because if everybody engages in selfish prayers, at a time of need, there would be nobody to pray for them.
Before rounding off her speech, Her Excellency gave the widows three key areas to improve upon in order to live impactful lives “First and foremost, you have to love God; Secondly, love people around you and when you do that God averts evil for you. Also, take care of yourselves. Eat the right meals, use the right drugs because health is wealth.”

She also encouraged them to teach their children to love God, let them develop personal relationships with God and see how things would turn out for them. “And you shouldn’t be complaining instead you should give thanks, because it is you that is blessed, you are not the dead one, you are alive, you are not in the hospital neither were you brought here on a wheel chair”.

She also advised widows to learn a vocational skill to empower themselves and try to learn something new every year. She enjoined them to make their children acquire skills too asides formal education. “Anything a child wants to do, let him do it, some of you parents, simply because you don’t want people to mock you, you push your children to University. In as much as there is nothing bad with a University degree, I decided not to attend one and I didn’t, I made up my mind to be a secretary and today I am one and proud of it”

The state Commissioner of Youth and Sports duly represented by Laide Latinwa encouraged the women to endeavour to engage in activities that would make their impact felt even by the unborn generation.
She also encouraged women whose lives have been touched by the head-high international organization to help lift other widows around them, “let the lifting efforts be multiplied”, she said.

In her message, the state Commissioner for Women Affairs and Poverty alleviation, Dr. Lola Slander duly represented by Jumoke Odusanmi, established the sufferings of widows in a typical African setting highlighting the inhumane treatments they are made to go through even in the 21st century of which Nigerian widows are no exception.

She, however, believes that it is time for women to come together to help tackle the challenges such as violence and discrimination against widows of all ages, “we must ensure that widows are well treated with equal opportunities for education and participation in the economy.”

The honourable commissioner also reiterated the efforts of the ministry towards poverty alleviation for widows through the skills acquisition schemes and programs organized by the ministry at intervals, “we would not relent in our campaign for women emancipation and empowerment. In the ministry of women affairs alone, there exists eighteen skill acquisition schemes established to empower young people and women across the state, most especially, widows. It is worthy to note that the short term and long term trainings are totally free of charge.”.

Some of the widows shared their experiences with New Telegraph one of which is Mrs Justina Ugwu, a mother of four children, who had lost her husband since 2006. She lamented that since the death of her husband life has been tough and hellish but with God by her side, she was able to overcome as three of her children had been in the higher institution one of which is currently in the compulsory National Youth Service Scheme (NYSC). “It was not easy at all. My husband’s family abandoned me and the children to survive alone and God helped us. I am a teacher in a private school so what I’m earning is just peanut so it was difficult for me when my first child gained admission into the University but God saw us through. I give him all the glory. ”

Mrs. Ogunmade Juliet stated that it has not been an easy journey since there was no one to support her, though her husband’s younger brother tried to make some efforts, he could not cope with it. “I have lost my husband since 33 years ago now. I never enjoyed my marriage because my husband died young. He just celebrated his 45 year old birthday. He had future plans for us but death cheated us. Since then, I have been running here and there to train my children to the level they are now and truly, God has always been faithful”.

She said that she appreciates the woman of God that have been helping widows and prays that God takes her higher.
Deaconess Busola Shomade, a mother of three, who lost her husband since year 2000 said that widowhood has not been easy on her. She described it as a tough one, that sometimes when a widow wakes up in the morning, her next option might be to cry knowing that her husband is nowhere but that God has helped her through it all.

“When I lost my husband, my mother-in-law sent I and the children out if the house so we had to look for our own apartment. But then we continued collecting the rent but later she stopped us from collecting the rent and took over though she promised to send us feeding money but we didn’t see anything. However, when my daughter gained admission into Yaba Tech last year, she gave us 20,000 but one thing is that God has always been my husband. He has always been there for me”.

Also speaking, Deaconess Opeyemi Falaye, a member of the trustee board stated that everything was rough but with God, it went well. She said that her husband died in year 1999 and her first son was in the first year in the University, the second was writing his senior WAEC while the last born was in his penultimate year in the secondary school.

“But today, with God by my side, all of them have graduated, they are doing well, they are in good places of work and they are taking care of me but initially, I thought I was going to die, I could not go to parties, I could not mingle with people, even friends that promised heaven and earth abandoned us. Initially, I was annoyed but later I realized that everybody has his cross to bear. So, I give God all the glory”
In an interview with Journalists, Pastor Mrs. Odugbeni spoke on what led her to establish the organisation

She said that as the first female pastor among her peers, she felt an urge to influence other women’s lives, “so I made up my mind to read the two books named after women in the Bible. I started with the book of Ruth because I was quite familiar with Esther. It was then that God arrested me, he showed me that there are different categories of widows.

With the information God gave me, the first thing that came to my mind as a journalist was to start a magazine or newsletter for widows but later we started with a Television series on NTA ten and with the way things turned out, I knew that was what God wanted me to do. This later led to a widows it held at Isolo where widows spoke at length and wanted more meetings. That was what led to this”.

Speaking on the challenges of the organization, she mentioned finance as one of the major challenges of the organisation and called on the government and other corporate bodies for assistance. She also expressed her gratitude to the sponsors and donors of the Head high international organization.

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I didn’t sacrifice my career for family – Professor Folayan



To some, life is just a phase, a compendium of events. To others, life is seen as an opportunity to achieve milestones that would make significant marks on the sand of time. In the latter category is Mrs. Morenike Oluwatoyin Folayan, an associate professor of Child Dental Health, Obafemi Awolowo University Teaching Hospital and member of the College’s research and partnership unit. In a chat with Elizabeth Ogunbamowo and Mayowa Ososami, the scholar speaks on her career


What motivated you to toe the teaching line?
I ventured into the teaching line by accident. I never planned to be a lecturer. I trained as a dentist and I had a very experienced professor- Odunsoya. I would say that almost 90% of my set came back into what we call the residency programme where we specialize. In our own world then, that was like a PHD and you know when you get a PHD, the more you research, the more you get interested. In our world then, there was a lot of gap in the academia and once you do your fellowship, there is always a space for you as a lecturer. I got in there. I think what I enjoy most is the research work. Teaching gave me the opportunity to share that and mentor young people. As an advocate also, I could share my research findings to change the world and students are the most available persons you can share that with. I enjoy that. I do not really enjoy clinical work.
In a University, you must do three things. You teach research and do community works. For most medical doctors, their community work is what they do in the teaching hospital. For me, my community work revolves a lot around advocacy worker.

What were your challenges like?
Yes, there are challenges but for me I have lived a life of overcoming challenges such that it has become a part of life. I could very well say that working in the University has its own peculiar challenges. I guess I could complain, just sadly I don’t. For me one of the things that was a challenge and extensively challenging was not having supporting seniors. I did not have supportive seniors so I had to learn the ropes myself and I had to climb the ropes myself. I think that is the only thing I can think of. Then it was a tug of war. I had to fight my battles. I fought battles people had never fought. I probably survived because I had God and maybe one of these miracles.

What are your teaching philosophies?
One thing for me, I think I got that from my own teacher, that when students fail, I failed. I remember the time that I was HOD, I was excited that I had a one hundred percent pass rate. The second year, it wasn’t the exact rate. But I was able to do a one hundred percent pass, so for me, when students fail, it should be me that failed.
In recent time, the second philosophy I share with my students is that, I am working with you to be everything you want to be in life, you make the choice. When I am in class teaching them, I make them to understand that I’m working with them. So that when they pick up their CV, there is something extra in that CV that gives them the likelihood to be taken up anywhere else despite the fact that they studied in Nigeria.

How is your marital life?
I am not married now. I am divorced. I was married then to Mr. Ukpong and he was supportive of my career. As a researcher on HIV/AIDS, I remember the times that HIV patients would come to the house and sleep over but my husband would not kick against it. They would use the bed in the guest room because we were staying in a two-bedroom flat and my husband never bothered me.

As a career woman, how do you jostle between the home front and your career?
I think one of the things that probably made me call for a divorce was that I could not sacrifice my career for my home and I am happy I did not. Because now that I’m divorced, I’m still going on, I don’t feel any loss and I don’t feel that I’ve wasted my life. In addition, I must acknowledge extensively that my husband stood at home front for me, spent a lot of time with the kids. He did and I would always acknowledge that.
However, following up my teenage years, I think I had trained my children to become very independent. That is one of the things that make me sad, sometimes. My kids do not really need me around. At times, I just wonder if my kids really need me.
Actually, the three of them are now in the UK, one of them is married and two are in school. I send them text messages through Whatsapp, Messenger, and two weeks after, they reply. I really brought up independent children, it has its disadvantages but it allowed me a lot more in my career.

What do you hope to achieve in your teaching profession?
I am looking forward to highly successful students. I usually tell my students that I want them to become the people that would fill those spaces up there. I want them to be those I would be watching on my TV tomorrow. I want them at the top.

As a researcher in areas of HIV/AIDS, will you say it is reducing or on the rise?
Excellent question! There has been a lot of progress in the field of HIV response. However, we do know that it is an infectious disease. It is not an infection you just go and catch because it is invisible. It is transmitted in such a way that you do not see the event happening and even though we have globally controlled the epidemic, in Sub-Saharan Africa, it is still a problem. In Nigeria, it is still a real problem. It is a problem that if not reinforced; you just want to start all over again. Although, it is in control in some parts of the world, in Nigeria it is not and without funding, it would still be a problem.

How can a woman in a typical African Society live a self-purposeful life without having to pay for it?
You said typical. She will pay for it. In a typical African setting, you are assertive and pursuing your goal. You are going to pay for it because there is no way out, you just have to choose to pay the price or you conform. That is the chart you have in a typical African setting. You would pay the price of stigma, rumors and backlashes. The only thing that saves you is if you come out well, the gist, rumor, backlashes would become less if you succeeded but if you are assertive and then you fail. You are doom.

Cases of domestic violence flood our societies daily. Do you think it is on the increase as against what was once obtainable?
No, it is not on the increase. It has always been there. I think there are lot of noises and voices around now. I think what you are just seeing is a lot more of harvesting. People are now speaking out and going to the court.

Can financial independence of a woman be a factor for home-break?
It is not about the economic empowerment of women. It is just that women are becoming more educated and this translates to financial independence. Financial independence of a woman does not determine a broken home except both parties do not manage it well and home will break whether you are financially independent or not.
So you do have people that their home are broken but are yet in marriage. What you will find out is that with more independence, your life becomes prior and you don’t necessarily have to go through the torture of maintaining a home. Therefore, independence does not necessarily mean home-break; you have to work it out. In every relationship, partners have to work it out together.

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