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Gone are the days men take the forefront of hardcore jobs like engineering, politics, firefighting, military, plumbing, mechanic, e.t.c. Nowadays, women are seen taking the centre stage of such jobs and nature of men’s struggle. Elizabeth Rowland writes

 

T hey are indeed at the forefront rubbing shoulders with their male counterparts in the field of survival proving the old maxim that says, “what a man can do, a woman can do better.” World over, today’s women can no longer be referred to as weaker vessels or deem fit for the kitchen alone, labour room and the “other room” as the saying goes.
With all the hustling and bustling nature of Lagos where only the fittest survive, hundreds of women have joined the men on the struggle field to become commercial drivers and conductors.

Proving their strut in these fields, especially as tricycle, BRT conductors and drivers, they skillfully rap different names of the routes they are taking like one who has hot yam in her mouth. They also displayed with much swagger beckoning on passengers to board bus/tricycle.

In addition, with husky voices (for those who perhaps take marijuana and local gin) they call on names of different bus stops for passengers. They dress, and act like men refusing to be intimidated by anyone especially their male counter parts on same field. Interesting, they wear rough hairs- short dreadlocks, three quarter baggy jeans, in most cases, rugged and crazy jeans with rubber sandals or sneakers to match.

They put on long weird chains on their necks and funny looking rings on their fingers. Just as the male conductors and drivers behave, the women also put headband on their foreheads, dirty looking small towels on their shoulders and cross-shoulder bag resting on their chests. With this type of dressing, they bounce pompously going up and down inside the bus demanding for the bus fee or standing at the entrance of the bus beckoning on passengers or opening the door for passengers.

Indeed, it takes only the livered to stand them or look at them in the face. Judging from their way of swagger, they have shown that they cannot be intimidated.
One of such women is Tawa Sulaimon, 62, but commonly called Cinderella among her peers, has been a tricycle driver for 10 years going.

She is the women leader of tricycle drivers in Ikorodu and a grandmother-of-two. Cinderella passionately told New Telegraph that she has always been a fan of men’s job. “From the beginning, I have always loved to do a man’s job.

Unfortunately, God created me as a woman, I love being a tomboy. I do things like a man because my dad was a soldier. So, if we do wrong in the house, he gives us tough punishment instead of flogging us. All these made me strong.

I am not a kind of person who depends on people for survival like begging any of my uncles and aunts for money. Therefore, I decided that if I can do this business I would not be asking anyone for anything, thereby constituting nuisance to anyone around me.

I have been driving this tricycle for 10years now. I have been doing business right from my secondary school just to be independent. No member of my family raised an eyebrow about my driving this tricycle, every.

They are aware of my interest in men’s job. So it wasn’t strange to them. However it wasn’t easy at first because I fell ill and lost weight barely two weeks I started but I was determined not to give up. I have received so many insults and harassment from male counterparts in the course of this business but it did not deter me still.

Even as I am in the midst of men, I try to organize things for everyone to make things easier and avoid cheating but some persons felt I was trying to control them because I am older than most of them and make derogatory statements about me.

They will always tell me this is not what my mates are doing and that I do not belong here. There was a time the chairman of the motor park, Igbogbo, area of Ikorodu slapped me. But I am not moved by their words and actions. Although, not every one of my male counterparts listens to me whenever I try to arrange them inside the garage, I still press on because I know I am doing the right thing.

I know what I’m passing through and I know I have to remain focused to achieve my aim- that is to eke a living and for me to be able to complete my building, also build a shop for myself after which I will leave the tricycle business.

“When I lost my husband, I decided to look for another job with BRT as a driver but because my driver’s license was not out by then, I wasn’t given the job. I had no other choice but to return to driving tricycle. I had to go collect another tricycle on hire purchase. I am very happy and contented with my job. Even when I am sad, immediately I start my tricycle I tend to forget all my worries,” she said.

Going by Cinderella’s gesture, New Telegraph observed that she is a franked and determined woman who refuses to be deterred by any forms of discouragement life throws at her. Being a single mother since the death of her husband seven years ago, she has not really known peace she so much crave. According to her story, she has not really known laughter and peace of mind.

Rather, all she knows and feels are pains, rejection and hardship. She said she singlehandedly trained her only daughter to a stage where she ought to stand on her toes. Unfortunately, the girl could not find her footings as her mother (Cinderella) still support her and her children.

Another female tricycle driver who identified herself as Asabi Ade also told her story. “I decided to go into this business because of my children. They have to feed and go to school. When I first started this job, my husband was not in support at all. He said it is a man’s job and it’s tedious for a woman. But I pleaded with him for a long time and tried to make him understand that I needed to do something just to support him to cater for the family since his salary is not enough to feed the family. I can’t Carter for my three children with little or delayed salary that I might get as salary if I were working somewhere else. But driving tricycle will give me more money because it is daily and lucrative. I sent people to plead on my behalf and finally, my husband accepted.

“I am proud riding the tricycle for a living. Some persons are in different hotels prostituting but by the grace of God, my case is not like that. I am proud of my job and it is lucrative but the number of trips one would go in a day is determined by the availability of the passengers. However, it has so many challenges especially from the passengers. Passengers talk to you anyhow as though you do not exist but for the money you need to get from them, one has to endure.

A look at Iyabode Ogunbona, 32, a female Lag Bus conductor turned ticket-issuing officer and leader of all female ticket- issuing officers in Ikorodu. One would easily pass her for a man for the way she is dressed and her carefree attitude. Ever ready to unleash the wrath of a conductor on anyone who take her for granted.

However, that attribute is actually, what earned her respect and fear amongst her colleagues. “I just joined the business to try it out because I have to get myself busy with something. Initially, my husband was very angry and he said he would rather open a shop for me where I can be selling things. I started selling things as he wanted but KAI officials were always disturbing. So many times, they would cease my goods and I would not be able to recover them back. I end up incurring great loses.

This was why I finally ventured into the conductor business. I have to wake up by 3 a.m just to meet up with the official timing. Apart from the disturbance from police officers who collect money from us and stubborn passengers who sometimes refuse to pay agreed amount for the fare, the job is really good and better than any indecent job. By next year, I would go into driving one of the LAG buses”. Iyabode told the New Telegraph.

These women in their respective speeches pitched their reason for joining the men’s world on supporting their husbands in catering for the family. They would rather engage themselves in such business than sit at home waiting to feed from what is left from their husbands’ income.

A male tricycle driver who pleaded anonymity said he is happy that women are in the business. However, he cannot allow his wife to join the business because it is a stressful job. Although they do not face as much difficulties as us, the men get stopped by police officers for parking wrongly. “It takes only a disciplined woman to do the job of a man without going astray,” he added.

Moving over to Oshodi, a suburb of Lagos State, New Telegraph met Esther Omowunmi who has been working with LAGBUS as a conductor for nine years. “Lack of Job pushed my husband and I into this business.

We joined LAGBUS as conductors in 2008. I won’t lie to you, it’s a very tedious routine but we have no choice. Typically, we wake up around 3-4 a.m and come back home very late at night leaving our children under nobody’s care because they are within the age bracket of 7 and 5. At a point, my husband had to stop in order to take care of the children. He later found another job as a printer while I continued as a conductor. When we first started in 2008, the payment was manageable. We were being paid N25,000 but now we get less than that.

The highest we get as a take home salary at the end of the month now is N10,000. I do not blame the management for the drastic reduction of salary because if there were enough buses, they would have maintained our initial salary or even increased it.

However, I am hopeful that by next year January, everything would be fine again because more buses are still coming. We face many challenges in the business, I cannot tell it all. Often times, after collecting money from passengers, it gets missing, consequently, we had to pay it back from our salaries. Nevertheless, we have to endure it because there is no easy job out there.

Falilat Oriola, another female conductor blamed her condition on the country’s situation. According to her, the situation in Nigeria made her join the business. “I have been in this business for two years going. Although, we are not paid enough salary, we can still manage it.

They pay us N1,300 per day. At least the little we get is better than staying at home and doing nothing. The stress involved in the business is too much that if there were a better job, I would have left the conductor job for it. It is no one’s wish to be doing this kind of business but since I cannot help the situation, I just have to endure.
With the way Morenike Aina issued orders to the men working with her, it was evident that she is in the business to take charge and cannot be restricted by her gender.

According to Morenike, in as much as it is a man’s job, women can also do it. She has been in the job for three years and still counting. “All the job requires is a smart, swift and strong person and that is my person.

I act like a man because the nature of my job requires iron hand. My husband and family were in support when I indicated my interest in the job. The only challenge is the way passengers talk to us as though we are not humans.

However, such passengers have me to contend with because I do not and not ready to take any nonsense from anybody. The money we are paid is nothing when compared to the stress we go through but we pray that God bless the little we are get,” she said.

“There is no easy job anywhere so women should not be choosy when it comes to making money. So long as it is decent and does not involve stealing, there is no reason why a woman should not do a particular job to support her husband. You do not always have to wait for your husband to provide everything you need. Being in this business for three years, I have been able to get a bus and lease it out and I hope to achieve more good things in less than no time.”

For Suliat Adetona, she joined the business because of money, also to prevent herself from stealing and prostituting. She said, “my husband was not in support at first but after much pleading he agreed. It was not easy for me when I started newly.

I suffered body aches and so much stress however, I am used to it now. In less than a year into this job, I have been able to rent a shop for my hair dressing salon and able to set it up to my desired standard. Honestly, I do not intend to keep this job as a permanent job.”

Adegboyega Ibrahim, a LAGBUS driver plying Oshodi and Ikorodu routes said, “although nobody is perfect, the ladies on this job are carrying out their duties to their very best and I commend them for that. I can allow my sister to do this job because I do not see anything wrong in it. After all, it is not a permanent job. The only thing is that the society has labeled every commercial driver and conductor as irresponsible persons, which is very wrong.

These individuals are only struggling to survive and to be meaningful in the society. They choose to do the job rather than stealing or constituting nuisance. So it will be fair enough if the society starts seeing them as responsible citizens.”

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Leah Sharibu: Heroine of faith?

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May 14, may have been any other day for some Nigerians, the day could have come and gone without any special attachment to the day for some. But it is a special day for close friends, families and relatives of Leah Sharibu, the only remaining Dapchi school girl in Boko Haram captivity.

Sharibu who was held at the middle of her 14 years of age turned 15, May 14. Normally, Sharibu would have marked her special day with friends and relatives at home or school if she were not in the Boko Haram captivity. According to Nathaniel Sharibu, Leah’s father, the family had planned to honour their first child on her 15th birthday. He said he had planned to throw a moderate birthday bash for her and her friends.

“It is very sad, I must tell you. I had proposed to arrange a befitting birthday party for her and her colleagues in the neighborhood but now we don’t even know her whereabouts. It’s so sad,” he said. All the same, the father still observed the birthday for his daughter but this time, in spirit filled way.

He organised prayer sessions for her simultaneously in Yola and Dapichi, Yobe, May 14. He said he had no choice than to lift the fate of his daughter to God through fasting and praying. “Right now, I am in Yola on official duty and the church I attend here held prayer sessions for my daughter just as our church in Dapchi did same,” he said.

He added that his wife, who lives alone in their apartment after the relocation of their only son from Dapchi, joined the prayer chain in the Dapchi branch of ECWA “but as a woman she was crying most of the time,” he said. Sharibu was held back for refusing to renounce her Christian faith.

She was among the 110 girls-students abducted February 19 but she wasn’t part of those released a month after the federal government had negotiated the release of all the students in which Leah was unfortunate. Rebecca Sharibu, Leah’s mother, has not only been in sober mood since the abduction of her daughter, she has also lost peace of mind and sweet peaceful sleep, typical of a troubled mother.

Quite understandably, the mother became inconsolable and always in a deep state of mourning while other parents celebrated the return of their children. It was too much of a torture and an unbearable dilemma for her. As days, weeks and month passed by, her strength grew feeble but her faith in her belief wax stronger and resolute. Although, she went into coma, came round two days after, she kept hoping for what is now termed as ‘miracle’ to witness her daughter’s return.

In an interview with one of the national dailies, Leah’s mother said her daughter sent a message to her that her family should pray for the will of God to be done in her life. “The released girls told us that the insurgents insist that my daughter must denounce her religion.

They told us that she must recite the Kalima Shahada (the Islamic profession of faith in one God), which she does not know how to recite. Therefore, they told her that if she didn’t know how to recite it then she should come down from the vehicle. She had already boarded the vehicle alongside others that were ready to come home. So she was asked to go down and join some three other females they met where they were kept.

They said my daughter would only be brought back home the day she knows how to recite Kalima Shahada,” she narrated. The poor mother continued that, her daughter pleaded with her friends that if they eventually made it home successfully, they should inform we, her parents, to continue to help her pray for God to protect her and bring her home safely as well; that whether she survived or not, she still needed prayers.

My concern and question to the government is that since we were told that the negotiation was done for all the schoolgirls, why did government accept that only my daughter be left behind when others were freed and even brought home? With tears and trembling voice, she appealed to the Federal government to ensure her daughter’s quickest release.

“So I plead that Government and the negotiation team should revisit the terms of the agreement to enhance the release of my daughter. Everybody has his religion and no one should be compelled to practice a religion he or she never wishes to.” It is not only traumatic period for the Sharibu’s family, it is also a test of faith for those who have been keeping faith with the troubled family.

The family has emotionally connected with mothers of the world and other fellow Christian faithful, but it seems the Federal government is not connected, as it is yet to secure the release of Leah while mothers from different part of the country and world have also joined in pleading with the federal government to hasten the release of the teenager. Ironically, Rebecca, Leah’s mother is of a strong belief that her daughter’s abductors will accept her daughter’s faith-Christianity.

In an interview with New Telegraph, she said she was proud of her daughter ‘for not denouncing Jesus Christ’ even in the face of tribulation, stressing that she was resolute that her daughter’s incarceration would at the long run redeem the sect from perpetrating ‘evil into doing good’ Leah’s father alleged that government had not made any contact with his family since his daughter’s abduction.

“No delegation has visited the family since the February 19 episode. Not even a telephone call from anybody. Nobody has called me,” he said. He added that the whole town was in sad mood. “Even those whose children were returned are very sad about my daughter’s absence.

Though we are not of the same religion with them, they are just not happy and they are helping us in prayers too. They are doing their best possible through prayers to lift our burden,” Sharibu said. The father also pointed out that neighbours had daily been visiting his wife to counsel her, appealing to the Federal Government to alleviate the pains of the family by ensuring speedy release of Leah to rejoin the family. Meanwhile, the Minister of Information, Lai Mohammed, last week said that efforts are in top gear, to ensure the release of the Leah Sharibu.

“We are yet to resolve the issue of six girls. 111 girls were kidnapped, 105 were returned and we are busy on daily basis asking and negotiating and asking what happened to those five officially at least and then what is delaying the young girl, Leah Sharibu.

Negotiations with insurgents are quite tortuous and complicated at times but I can assure you we are not leaving her to her fate and those who should do are busy daily working on her release,” the Minister said.

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Mother’s day: A day not for the hurt

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Mothers are, perhaps, sweetest gift from God to all. There is no way they can ever be thanked enough. For all that a mother does, it would only be too good to make it a habit to keep reminding oneself of the various sacrifices she made while raising the children. Mother’s Day is the best time to say in words how much you love and care for your mum. Oluwatosin Omoniyi writes

 

The mind-boggling question is if the above expression of mother still holds sway dearly for most children especially those forced into early marriage or sold into sex slavery. And for the mothers, it is in doubt if they are still expectant of their children’s appreciation. A poet, Sandeep Gupta wrote a lovely poem in sweet memory of ‘Mother’

Mother is a part of God.
Mother is a part of Love.
Mother is a part of our Strength.
Mother is a part of our Winning.
Mother is a part of who direct us
to right path to proceed.
and ..and ..so on..
I Love my Mother very much…..
Don’t let ur Mother get
away from u….
Happy Mother’s Day….

Yes, those forced into marriage, child labour or by circumstances forced into prostitution may not remember to wish their mothers well as they also may be battling with the challenges life throws at them.

A typical example is 19-yearold Sudanese woman who was sentenced to death for fatally stabbing the man she was forced to marry, who she says raped her as his relatives held her down.

The case of Noura Hussein has shone a spotlight on the issues of forced marriage and marital rape in Sudan, where the legal age of marriage is only 10 and marital rape is legal.

Hussein’s supporters filled the courtroom in Omdurman, Sudan, and overflowed into the hall outside as the judge announced her death penalty. Her husband’s family refused an option to pardon her and rejected financial compensation, requesting that she be executed instead. Unfortunately, Hussein’s legal team has only 15 days to appeal.

“She’s still in complete shock after her sentencing today,” Dr. Adil Mohamed Al-Imam, one of Hussein’s lawyers, told CNN. Al-Imam donated his services after Hussein’s original lawyer withdrew from the case.

He added that Hussein was abandoned not only by the law, but also by her family. Her story have set social media and WhatsApp ablaze in Sudan. And in recent days it has captured international attention with the hashtags #JusticeforNoura and #SaveNoura. Thousands of people have shared a change.org petition.

Forced to marry at 15, Hussein ran away from home and sought refuge with her aunt for three years. She was tricked into returning by her father, who handed her over to her husband’s family. After Hussein refused to consummate the marriage, her husband’s relatives held her down while he raped her. “His brother and two cousins tried to reason with her, when she refused, she was slapped and ordered into the room.

One held her chest and head, the others held her legs,”Al-Imam told CNN. A day later, her husband tried to rape her again, and she stabbed him to death. When she went to her parents for support, they turned her in to the police. Amnesty International’s Sudan researcher, Ahmed Elzobier, said it was the first time a case of this nature had attracted such attention. “Marital rape happens in Sudan often and people don’t talk about it,” he said.

Hussein’s case had changed that, he said. Shahd Hamza, 20, was among those who came to support Hussein in court, after hearing about her case in a group chat on WhatsApp. She said that while the rape and harassment of women had long been an issue in Sudan, a case like Hussein’s had never gone viral.

Nahid Gabralla, director of SEEMA, a nongovernmental organisation working with victims and survivors of gender-based violence in the capital, Khartoum, has been campaigning in support of Hussein. “In my work I’ve seen other cases like this.

The suffering of Sudanese women is happening all the time,” Gabralla said. “The case of Noura is different. She stood for her rights.” Another example was a teenage wife remanded for allegedly killing husband, Umar Sani, 37, with `rat poison’.

The police in Kano are on her trail. The Public Relations Officer of the Police Command in the state, Magaji Majiya,disclosed in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Kano that the relations of the late husband reported the incident to Kofar Wambai Police station in Kano metropolis on Monday. He said, “after the Police received the report on the incident, they went to their matrimonial home at Yakasai quarters in Kano metropolis but found that the bride had run away,” he said.

“Our men had already swung into action with a view to trailing and arresting her to face prosecution,” the police spokesman said. According to him, the command will ensure that due process is followed in the investigation in order to ascertain the circumstances that led to the dastardly act.

On the killing of a kidnapped sixyear- old boy at Dabai quarters in Gwale Local Government Area of the state, Mr. Majiya said the State Security Services (SSS) had arrested the principal suspect.

“The DSS has promised to transfer the case to the state Criminals Investigation Department (CID) for further investigation, ” he said. He said as soon as investigation was completed, the suspect and all other accomplices would be charged to court. A teenager from Birmingham has told a court how her mother threatened to tear up her passport if she did not marry a man by whom she had become pregnant at the age of 13.

The girl, now 19, said she cried through a wedding ceremony and begged her mother for help after being forced into the 2016 marriage in Pakistan, four years after her pregnancy.

She told jurors that prior to the event her mother, who is charged with two counts of forced marriage, also bribed her with a smartphone. She claimed her mother became angry when she told her she did not want to marry the 33-year-old Pakistani national – a man by whom she had become pregnant on a previous visit in 2012 when she was 13 and he was 29.

She told Birmingham crown court how she felt like an “object that could be moved from place to place” and feared her mother would be angry and disappointed if she did not comply with her wishes.

She said: “I knew I was in Pakistan. I had nowhere to go. I had to do whatever was asked.” Another teenage victim of a forced marriage joked about her parents “giving her away” weeks before she flew to Bangladesh. According to the 19-yearold, she was lured on a sham holiday July 3 2016 to force her to marry her cousin.

She told a court that her parents, who cannot be named for legal reasons, are on trial at Leeds Crown Court via a Bengali interpreter. They both deny charges of attempting to coerce their daughter into marrying without her consent.

The Leeds woman used her phone to send her location details to her boyfriend, who then informed West Yorkshire Police on 11 July she may be in danger, prompting her eventual rescue, the jury heard. Giving evidence from behind a screen, her boyfriend told the court that three weeks before flying to Bangladesh, the teenager had mentioned her father selling his possessions and joked: “What if he is planning to give me away?” “I could only think about one thing… and that’s the Asian culture of arranged marriage,” he said.

However, he claimed he took her remark to be a “joke” and was not initially worried. But it was not until seven days into the trip that the woman contacted him and, in one message, told him not to text her “for a while”, he told the court.

The boyfriend told jurors he became concerned as a result and suspected her parents were forcing her into an arranged marriage. He messaged her saying: “You could have seen this coming,” the court was told. He described how he became “terrified” and “scared”. “She was far away and I did not know what was happening,” he told the jury.

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The power of a woman’s criticism

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The term ‘woman’ is the vessel of life and it is not a duty she discharges with levity. When the word, woman, is mentioned, apart from beauty and her feminine physique, it speaks of vitality, pillar, energy, and spirituality, among many other adjectives that could qualify her. Oluwatosin Omoniyi writes

 

According to M.B Antevasin, a teacher and scientist, “They are not kidding when they say that mothers are strong women. We need to be strong in more ways than our children will ever know.” Indeed, the strength and uniqueness of a woman can be compared to no other.

They constantly have to deal with lot of issues emotionally, physically and spiritually. Although, to some, particularly men, she is a nightmare of beauty and menace of a being, she is still superlative; a diamond that constantly beats imaginations.

With the many qualities that characterize multi tasking women, it becomes a nurturing tendency that often sets them in leadership positions apart from men. According to Nancy Pelosi, an American politician, “Women are leaders everywhere you look — from the CEO who runs a Fortune 500 company to the housewife who raises her children and heads her household. Our country was built by strong women, and we will continue to break down walls and defy stereotypes.”

Perhaps, it is in this light that Hillary Clinton, wife of former American President in her twitter account describes herself first as a, Wife, Mom,’ and Grandmother.” A description that a Nigerian novelist, non-fiction writer, short story writer and actress, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie found too belittling for her (Clinton) putting into consideration her many positions and contributions to American politics and society. As First Lady of the United States, Clinton played critical role by advocating for gender equality and healthcare reform.

Her marital relationship came under public scrutiny during the Lewinsky scandal, which led her to issue a statement that reaffirmed her commitment to the marriage.

Hillary Diane Rodham Clinton, 71 is an American politician, former diplomat, and First Lady of the United States from 1993 to 2001. She also served as the junior U.S. Senator from New York from 2001 to 2009 and as the 67th U.S. Secretary of State from 2009 to 2013. Running for president in 2008, she won far more delegates than any previous female candidate, but lost the Democratic nomination to Barack Obama.

During her tenure as U.S. Secretary of State in the Obama Administration from 2009 to 2013, Clinton responded to the Arab Spring by advocating military intervention in Libya. She helped to organize a diplomatic isolation and international sanctions regime against Iran in an effort to force curtailment of that country’s nuclear program. Upon leaving her Cabinet position after Obama’s first term, she wrote her fifth book and undertook speaking engagements. Clinton made a second presidential run in 2016. She became the first female candidate to be nominated for president by a major U.S. political party.

She lost the presidential election to Republican opponent Donald Trump despite winning a plurality of the popular vote.She received more than 65 million votes, the third-highest count in a U.S. presidential election, behind Obama’s victories in 2008 and 2012.

Following her loss, she wrote her third memoir and launched Onward Together, a political action organization dedicated to fundraising for progressive political groups.Going by the above brief description of Clinton, it was only normal for Adichie to react in that manner that most Nigerians misconstrued. Adichie to Hillary; “In your Twitter account, the first word that describes you is ‘Wife.’

And then I think its ‘Mom,’ and then it’s ‘Grandmother.” “And when I saw that, I have to confess that I felt just a little bit upset. And then I went and I looked at your husband’s Twitter account, and the first word was not ‘husband,” Adichie said.

Adichie was trying to, perhaps emphasis what Martina Navratilova, tennis player, said that, “I think the key is for women not to set any limits.” Adichie didn’t want Clinton whom she believed limit herself statue way too below her capacity especially as a woman of many diversities.

She was curious as to why with all of Clinton’s career accomplishments; did her Twitter bio primarily identify her as a “Wife”.Luckily, Clinton understood her unlike many Nigerians who took Adichie to the cleaners. Swiftly, Clinton indulged her by changing her twitter account to her critique specification!

“When you put it like that, I’m going to change it,” Clinton said, prompting roars from the crowd. However, Clinton explained that for why ‘Wife’ kicked- off her bio, which is that women should be able to celebrate both their accomplishments and their relationships.

According to Adichie, But the truth is that we were supposed to be having a ‘conversation,’ the context of our conversation was personal and warm, I had made the decision to speak from the heart.

It would be dishonest to pretend that I had not reacted personally to so many issues around Ms. Clinton, whose life has become a kind of crucible of all the questions that affect women.”

She explained that, “towards the end of our conversation, I told her how, having read her writing about her own life, I think she has a great love story with Bill Clinton. A wonderful friendship. I said I feel irritated and protective of her when people dissect her personal life, but I also confessed to having an interest myself, particularly about her public Twitter profile. (I first noticed it when I was researching a piece about her during the presidential campaign).

I was upset that the first word used to describe her was ‘wife.’ Was it a choice she had made or was it something done for her campaign and, if it was a choice she had made, did she think my reaction to it was fair?” She noted.

Adichie continued, “Her response was very thoughtful. I was too excited, emotional, slightly nervous, to be on stage with this remarkable woman. Had I kept in mind how easily outrage-mongers would jump on a headline, I would have phrased my question better. I would not have made it about my being upset, because it can come across as navel-gazing.”

Reacting to the interview, some Nigerians felt she took her feminism too far, adding that the question was intrusive and Hillary has a choice on her view on being addressed as a ‘Wife’.

Some others argued that the question was necessary for women to understand that they have to celebrate their achievements, not just on the home front, just like men. Some of the reactions: Popular blogger Linda Ikeji wrote @lindaikeji: I’m a big advocate for women empowerment, rights and independence but when I do marry, I’d proudly describe myself as a wife & proudly add my husband’s name to mine.

“Proudly! if you don’t believe in that as a woman, that’s fine too #differentstrokesfordifferentfolks,’’ @Linesandtimes tweeted, “Chimamanda said she was a bit upset by Hillary Clinton’s bio. Her intolerance for anything that does not align with her idea of feminism is really tragic. “A woman can be defined as anything she wants to be seen as, what’s important is that it’s her choice.” @Txtwistatornado wrote, “Lol I read the article, and I think it was great.

I don’t think she disgraced Nigeria at all. “She got Hillary Clinton to reevaluate the message she sends to women. I believe in a happy medium as a woman so I’m good with this interview.

IMO” @SeunxTemi tweeted, “Not going to read all these. This is someone’s personal life Chimamanda thinks she has the right to criticize in such an unwarranted manner.

“Hilary Clinton is a Queen and what her bio states shouldn’t diminish her numerous accomplishments.” @Realcalmday said, “If Hilary Clinton had a problem with what Chimamanda asked her, I believe she would’ve said so. Why are you people carrying the matter on your heads?” @Chinewubeze_mc wrote, “Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie went too far with this her feminism issue during her interview with Hilary Clinton today.” @Pengasonconcept tweeted, “So happy about how Hilary Clinton clarified Chimamanda on the true meaning of feminism.

“Just because a woman is up to the same task as an average man on earth doesn’t stop them from knowing their true responsibilities in life.” News Agency of Nigerian, (NAN) reports that Adichie’s feminism campaign has been a pivotal crux of her writing as her characters centre around powerful women who are usually dwarfed by the patriarchal system in their environments.

In 2017, Adichie released a small book titled – ‘Dear Ijeawele or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions’. Ironically, Adichie may be good and apt in critiquing but seems she is good in being criticised. In her response to one of the critiques whom she claimed she knew, she was mildly acerbic to put it. The #Response Cynicism is ugly. It doesn’t flatter anyone. Yours doesn’t suit you at all.

I remember you vaguely; I think you were in my class in primary school. And now you claim to be my ‘family’ and you are asking me to shut up. Did you watch the video of the conversation? Did you read a full transcript? I am tired of Nigerians who read a headline and, without bothering to get details and context, jump on the outrage bandwagon and form lazy, shallow opinions. I am tired of Nigerians cynically thinking of anybody in public life as a ‘brand.’ No, I am not a brand. I am a person who feels strongly about certain issues. I choose to talk honestly about them.

I made the choice to talk about feminism knowing very well the kind of hostility it brings – but I think it’s important and I will continue to speak my truth and hope to bring about some change, no matter how small.

Adirom agba egwu ka m data ego. No, of course you don’t actually deserve a response, but I have some free time today. So I want to make you feel a little important because it sounds like you need it.

And I want to reflect on an absolutely lovely hour spent on stage with Hillary Clinton. I was happy when I was told that Hillary Clinton had specifically requested to be in conversation with me at the PEN World Voices festival. I am an unapologetic fan of Ms. Clinton’s. I have been for many years.

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