Dead-end Affairs

Not all relationships would lead to the altar; some women admit that harsh fact while many really think they have the magic wand to make even obviously bad affairs lead to marriage. Of course, either party could go into the relationship for fun but even when both the man and woman go into the relationship with their eyes on the altar, things still fall apart. Not all affairs can end happily ever after. However, more and more women are pushing their luck nursing bad relationships, patching up bad affairs and…

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Me, wife of a drug dealer?

There is a race going on at breakneck speed for the big bucks. Every man wants to be a millionaire even before he’s out of his diapers. Check out secondary school boys and pranks they are all into and you will be sorry for this generation. Looks like we are doomed. Sixteen-year-olds want to be big time businessmen. Listen to 20-year-olds talk and their favourite currency is either the pound sterling or dollars. Never Naira. Young men are trying their hands on all sorts of business, legal or illegal as…

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All brag, no action

He knows it is not true. He doesn’t even believe it himself but he’d do his damned best to convince you it is true with words, body language and treats (if he has money). He’d try to prove that he’s the best, that with him, you cannot go wrong. He would even dress suggestively to show you some concrete evidence. It’s all about bragging about his sexual prowess and he doesn’t stint on apparatus. A man who is boasting about how good he is in bed (or any other venue)…

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Caught with his ex

Imagine this, a man tells you how much his ex-girlfriend disappointed him jilting him for an older man who already had two wives? He says it with such convincing selfpity and agony that you have to comfort him by promising never to let him down. He burns all her photographs and cards that she’d sent to him when the going was good. He vows never to talk to her again even if this life depends on it. Then one day you return earlier than usual from work and decide to…

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The wedding is off!

It’s been going on for years, maybe three, maybe more or less. Everybody expects the journey to culminate at the usual final bus stop. And true to people’s expectations it looks like the normal thing will definitely happen. The invitation cards are out, the wedding trousseau complete. She has made trips and trips to the fashion designers for fittings and more fittings. The cows have been paid for and a five-tiered cake ordered. His people have chosen their own ‘aso-ebi’ and so have the bride-to-be’s friends and family. The reception…

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Confession time

Just when I thought I had heard it all, I found myself in the midst of men who have pasts as long as from Lagos to Maitagari in Jigawa State. The things they were saying could dry up the anointing of the strongest man of God. At first I was scared of what they could do to my nice ‘innocent’ life but this old girl has heard many things in the past and these guys were ready to talk. So I decided to act as Mother Confessor. At the end…

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The half-believer and the Christian single girl

Single Christian women need not despair. Oh, they think so too but do they act it? They mouth it all right and tell you ‘it is well’ as often as possible. Problem is, do they believe it, do we believe them? The single state has been designed by society to be a deplorable state, fit only for the miserable. Why a young woman should accept that verdict beats me? You can only be single once and once you are married, you are in it for life. So what’s the rush?…

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